Teenagers today face many challenges. They are becoming more independent and discovering themselves; some may be getting their first job, learning how to drive, entering the world of social media, starting to have girlfriends or boyfriends and all while continuing to develop and go through puberty. With these changes and challenges, comes many ups and downs. Studies have shown that 20% of all teens experience depression before they reach adulthood.

How Can We Tell If Our Teen Is Experiencing “Normal Teenage Emotions” Versus Depression?

Typical signs of depression in teens may include, feeling sad, withdrawn, fatigued, having severe mood swings, lack of energy, excessive worries, negative self-talk, dropping grades or disinterest in school, a lack of personal hygiene, an increase in sleeping, talking about death, dying or suicide, and a decreased interest in daily activities, such as hanging out with family or friends.

How To Talk To Your Teen About Depression

If these are symptoms you are noticing, it is crucial to check in with your teen and ask questions. Discussing mental health struggles, specifically depression with your teen may seem awkward at first, but the more we talk about it the easier it gets. It is okay to ask your teen about behaviors that have been worrying you. For example, you might say, “I’m worried that you have not had any interest in your favorite activities recently” or “I’ve noticed you have not been wanting to hang out with friends.”

When discussing depression with your teen, be mindful and actively listen; give them all your attention. You want to be sure your teen feels heard, understood and secure. Your teen needs someone they can rely on and trust. Be sure to ask for clarification if you are not sure what they mean. Repeat back to your teen what they are stating and summarize their thoughts and feelings to be sure you are following along and understanding what your teen is going through.

Offer compassion and validation; do not minimize how they are feeling. Provide your teen with positive affirmations such as “You got this,” “You are brave,” “You are strong,” etc. Tell your teen how much you love and care for them. Encourage your teen to have supportive friendships and relationships, as social connections, this is extremely important. Be sure to ask your teen how you can show your support and be there for them during this time, as this may better help you understand them as well.

How To Help Reduce Your Teen’s Depression

Lastly, there are simple changes you can make at home to help reduce your teen’s depression.

Some things you can try are; to taking a family walk after dinner, designating the last hour or two before bed to play a boardgame or watch a show together, cook meals together, and make sure your teen is getting enough sleep. You can also encourage your teen to try a new activity or hobby, such as a sport, art classes, music lessons, etc. At times, teens need additional support      through a therapist and/or psychiatrist. Be open to supporting them by taking them to their appointments, as needed.

No parent or guardian wants to hear or see their child is experiencing depression. We all want our teens to feel happy, healthy, and loved. Listen to your teens, pay attention to warning signs, show love and compassion, make changes, and ask questions.

If you feel your teen is struggling with depression and you want more information and/or you wish to schedule an appointment for teen counseling with a Genesis Counseling Clinician, please contact us.

Alexsey Goodman, MSW, RCSWI
Registered Clinical Social Work Intern
Mental Health Therapist
Independent Contractor with Genesis Counseling